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We all know that there’s an “A” in the LGBTQIA+ acronym, and no, it doesn’t stand for “ally.” It stands for “asexual,” or ace, and it’s a branch of the queer community that is too often ignored or even erased. Like all labels, it means different things to different people, but on a most basic level it refers to people who don’t experience sexual attraction. What does this mean? That’s what writer and science journalist Angela Chen, who herself identifies as ace, explores in her new book
The crux of society’s difficulty with accepting asexuality is, Chen argues, because compulsory sexuality is ingrained in societal narratives about mental and physical health, politics and liberation, and interpersonal relationships. Compulsory sexuality posits that sex is a primal human need, ties sex to maturity, and places sex in relationship hierarchies. Even in the queer community, though we hate to be oversexualized by the straights, we often sexualize ourselves and each other. And while queer sex is indeed liberating for allosexuals (or those that do experience sexual attraction), so is the ability
Something else I thought about a lot was the role of language in centering ace experience. One thing that I initially wanted to do was to not say when people were asexual and only say when people were allosexual [
That's very hard for many people to accept. I've spoken to many aces, both for the book and privately, and they say there's this sense that they can't say no forever. Maybe they can say no this time. Maybe they're on their period and they can say no. Maybe it's long distance, but there's the sense that they at some point they owe sex to their partner. And I simply don't believe that's true. And I think most aces do not believe that is true. If we think that no one should have unwanted sex with a stranger, we should also believe that no one should have unwanted sex with a partner, even if their partner is great. And of course you always have to caveat by saying the partners are allowed to have their own boundaries. I think it's fine if the partner says that not having sex is a deal breaker for them, but that's their personal deal breaker. It's not that the lower-desire partner is broken. I think many people, not just aces, feel coerced and like they are not allowed to say no, that no alone is not a good enough answer.
Yes, I definitely do have experiences like that. And I've talked to a lot of people who have had similar experiences. For example, I was recently writing an article about a three parent family in which it's basically a straight couple who are co-parents with someone who is asexual. And when I was telling people of the article, a lot of people were like, "Oh, that sounds so great. I'm too jealous to be in a poly relationship, but it would be great to have this asexual third." And there was nothing really wrong with saying that, but something about that rubbed me the wrong way. It seemed very infantilizing, like this person could never be a threat. And I think implicit in that idea that this person could never be a threat is the idea that sexual infidelity or sexual jealousy is the greatest threat that there could be. Not that we should be threatened by others, but it's funny how aces are often infantilized, even though aces who are not aromantic can still be an emotional threat.
But there are many interesting ways in which I think being asexual has affected how other people see me. I noticed that my friends tend to talk to me about sex less than they used to. And sometimes when they do they'll preface it by saying something like, we don't have to talk about this, if you're uncomfortable. A part of me will be like, we've been friends for longer than I've identified as ace. We used to talk about sex all the time in college in graphic terms. I'm not different. I'm not made uncomfortable by sex just because I identify differently. I'm not any more repulsed by it than I used to be..
On another level I think asexuality should be normalized in sex ed. It should be on census forms. It should be something that people learn about in order to be a therapist, especially sex therapists. I think that ace perspective should be brought to discussions when it comes to medicine and the medicalization of sex and the way that narrative of “broken” is used to sell various libido boosting drugs. I think representation is important. I would love to see ace characters who aren't used purely educationally. Characters who have complex storylines.
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